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By Mr. Dixon
The question of “Why are there so many Single Fly-females clubbing in New York?” is often answered using what I call “safe answers” in order to give reasons for a fly-female’s relationship dilemma. A few examples of these “safe answers” includes, but not limited to the following: “all guys are dogs,” “I don’t need a man” or the shared belief that “most guys are intimidated by a beautiful female.” These answers/reasons are obviously just a few examples of excuses fly-females use to justify why, after 1-4 years they are yet to establish a meaningful relationship with a guy. It makes them angry internally whenever they see a couple kissing on the train, cuddling while watching a movie at the theater, dancing intimately close at a lounge/club, sharing an ice-cream cone at the park or casually walking hand-in-hand on Flatbush Avenue in Brooklyn. To the contrary, they are not upset at the thought of seeing a couple deeply in love with each other, it’s the hurt that comes alone with not being able to share similar things with someone special.

The idea of not being able to find love or establish a meaningful relationship with someone in this day and age can be a difficult pill to swallow. A lot of fly-females have made attempts to establish healthy relationships, but unfortunately the guy(s) who they thought had their best interest at heart turned out to be the total opposite. However, this is definitely not the case for most fly-females, because a lot of them were able to find a guy that is relationship material, but because of their mean attitudes, chronic obsession with materialistic things, and the absence of a life’s plan has sent good guys running for the nearest exit. That being said, I’ve taken the liberty of putting together a list of FIVE possible reasons why a lot of “fly-females” are still single and miserable.

They are as followed:

• Mean / Bitter/ Selfish Attitude towards others: The most unattractive thing is when a female shows very little respect towards others by being mean, bitter and inconsiderate.

• Chronic Obsession with Fashion or being “in-style:” Fact, a lot of guys do appreciate a female that knows how to dress; however, being chronically obsessed with looking “your best” at all times equates to spending a substantial amount of money in order to maintain your image. There is absolutely nothing wrong with treating yourself to nice cloths, but it can become a big turn off when most of your free time is spent trying to live up to what you saw on television or on the cover of a popular magazine.

• Lack of Common Sense: Common sense alone should tell you that it is not appropriate to wear a tank-top for a job interview or attend a party knowing that you have work the next morning at 8am. Need I say more?

• Unable to entertain a meaningful conversation: The most attractive thing to me, and I’m sure that would be the case for other guys as well is a female that is able to entertain a meaningful conversation about real life issues. This not only sheds light on her level of intelligent, but it also shows that she has some idea of the world around us and also serves as the perfect opportunity for her to share personal beliefs and opinions. Which sensible guy wouldn’t want a conversation butterfly?

• Chronically dependent on Make-up: A few months ago I dated this female and one of the reasons why I decided to not entertain the idea of a relationship with her is because I got tired of asking myself “I wonder what would she look like without make-up?.”

There are hundreds of reasons why a fly-female would constantly find herself cruising alone on the singles highway after years romance-searching; therefore the list I gave you is equivalent to a drop of water in a bucket. Nevertheless, in order for them to somehow venture off the singles highway, they would first need to re-evaluate themselves and the image they present to others or a potential partner. Secondly, take some quiet time to think about the type of qualities that they are looking for in a guy and most importantly – the type of relationship they would like to establish in the near future. Truthfully speaking, it’s relatively easy to “fake-the-funk” in order to trick a guy into making you his queen; however, sugar quoting your true qualities in order to “catch a man” is a thought that should never be welcomed with open arms.

If you have any questions or comments about this article, please email Mr.Dixon at markd9@gmail.com or visit his myspace.com page at http://www.myspace.com/mr718.