The reason why I ask that question is because I find it mind-boggling how a lot of females are eager to request that guys treat them with respect, but the minute someone ask them “would you like to take a picture for my website?” they almost instantly stick their Butt or Breast out [depending on which is bigger]. As a guy who does appreciate a confident and curvy empress; I find it contradicting to some extent when on one hand a female demands respect, but conducts her self in a manner that attracts unfavorable attention. It is nice to be proud of your own skin/body, but why put yourself out their as “the girl whose ass is always” out and about. Are you generating respect or an army or perverted followers? Think about it, what type of guys approach you? And how do they usually go about initiating the first conversation? “Hey Ma!, you got a fat ass” or “hey shorty, when you gonna make me tap that ass?” sounds familiar?
As a hormone charged young man growing up, the idea of seeing a “little skin” much less a girl’s Butt just barely peeking out got me overly exited. Perhaps I’m getting old, but seeing a female scantily dressed no longer gets me overly excited (unless it is my Empress. :smile:), but instead it makes me wonder what may have caused her to limit herself to a mere object of sex. Is she desperately seeking attention or is she merely a sponge to the media’s belief that “sex sells” and that in order for a female to be considered attractive – she will have to show “extra skin.” But whatever the case may be, I believe that a lot of women are selling them self short by living in accordance with society’s negative views of women. To prove this, I would suggest that you take a trip to your corner store to examine the covers of popular magazines. Predictably, the images that you will see on the cover of these magazines are of women dressed in either nothing or skimpy bikinis.
I guess it explains why:
1. so many black women are investing large amounts of money on straight/blonde weave
2. so many Jamaican women are bleaching their skin
3. diet drug manufactures are making millions on false promises of a “slimmer you” — despite the mountain of potentially deadly side effects
4. apple bottom jeans are called “apple bottom”
5. a 14 year old girl-child feels the need to wear layers of makeup and skin tight jeans to school
I am not a mind reader or do I have “special powers” to predict your next thought, but im pretty sure that you are asking yourself the question “who is he to judge?” or determine what is considered acceptable attire for a female. Well, I am sorry to disappoint you but I am in no way, shape, or form trying to judge anyone nor am I a world-renowned fashion expert. The point I am trying to raise has a lot to do with the media’s views about women and how a lot of what we see today in our communities are directly linked to the media’s goal to devalue women in society. Mind you, I am not implying that women in general should all dress in sheets of clothing in order to be considered “appropriate.” Because like most mature men, I think that it is delightfully tasteful when a female shows that she is proud of her body and skin. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wearing an outfit that compliments your natural curves, but why does everyone have to know that your birthmark is on the left butt cheeks. Maybe that wasn’t you whose Butt was out, but I am almost certain that you could recall a few instances where you repeated the line “you know she had no business wearing that in public.” Was it because her outfit covered too much or was it the fact that it covered very little?
..What are your thoughts about this topic?
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Well Said, great blog!!